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a boy or a girl?

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Statistics from the United Nations Stats Division shows that worldwide, the number of men top the number of women by just a mere 1.75%.  I can’t make some trend though on what gender has more number in a particular country depending on how rich the country is. Perhaps we need to refer to Hans Rosling’s GAP Minder to relate the gender with the country’s per capita. 😀

In Japan however,  there are 5.3% more women over men. This statistics is not obvious in our office though; there’s roughly 5 women out of 30 men in the office, I think. Albeit it’s just inside the office. Outside, there’s definitely more women.

If you’re a newly married couple and you’re in a country where one gender has more number over the other, and IF it’s really true that one can plan the gender of their babies, would you consider planning your baby’s gender so as to help “even” things out?

I came across this “planner” about a year ago I think, source unknown already at this time (memory gap!).

 

I’ll be 32 next March. Based on the above chart, we have higher chances of having a girl over a boy hence adding up to the 5.3% more women over men here in Japan.

But then again, like what any parent would pray for, what’s really important is to have healthy and normal-birth babies. For all we know our baby may one day be among the LGBT community, so planning for whether they be boy or girl really doesn’t make sense.

Yet, if I may so boldly wish for it, I hope our babies would look like Atsushi. However, I may have to wish harder since Atsushi, for his part, also wishes our babies to look like me. haha!

And oh, to the curious, no, i’m not pregnant yet.

Would you want your baby to be a model?

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Every now and then, Atsushi and I daydream on what sort of persons our kids (hopefully!) are gonna be. We wonder if they are gonna be geeks and become scientists or be engineers like their parents. Or, they can be gifted with triple the talents in music Atsushi and I have and establish a successful career in the music industry. There are lots of possibilites for them.

I wondered though if there’s possibility for them to be models. I’m only 5 feet so if ever my child would inherit my height and yet would grace the modelling industry, she/he’d be probably modelling only baby wear or kids wear. But if she/he be gifted with height and the beauty and has interest, would I allow my kid to be a model?

If truth be told, I can imagine myself glowing with pride if I see my baby making the catwalk on the stage. And I can imagine myself telling everyone that my baby has been in the cover of some fashion magazine. Yes, I think I can be quite a stage mom.

Yet again, if truth be told, I am afraid for my babies to have an interest in the fashion industry lest they grow up insecure. Not that I’m saying models have peronality problems. It’s just that I do think it takes a strong and grounded person to be in and survive the fashion and entertainment industry.

Given this, here lies the question: if your baby, your 10-year-old baby be asked to pose alluringly and suggestively, and dress up in sexy and provocative dresses, wouldn’t you worry for your baby’s well-being? Wouldn’t you think that your child has been robbed of her/his right to being a child, robbed of the opportunity to mature in time so as to gear themselves ready when it’s time to mingle in the adult world? If you are Thylane Lena-Rose’ parent, would you allow her to post like this?

(a stickler for copyright issues that I am, I decided to screencapture the article and post it here, rather than copy the pictures from the article and embed them here. I could have done what I usually do – watermark in the photo the website where I took it but I figure for this one, a “clipping” of the article might be better).

Looking at Thylane’s photos, wouldn’t you get fearful on how she’d fare in the future?

But then again, one would argue that a hundred years or so back, women as young as 12 get married and have babies. But then again, it’s not the 19th century anymore. I do think that the world now is a lot more complicated than how it was back then.