The moment you love, you really are opening yourself to the possibility of being hurt and being broken hearted. No matter what type of love and whatever relationship you have. Yes, it definitely includes friendship.
It hurts. A lot. You go about your day(s) carting around the hurt. But still, I choose to love.
Because having had known love, I know that loving and forgiving is the better (and best!) option.
Hubs and I were admiring Yui as she was also beaming at us.
M: I love her lower lip.
A: I love her upper lip.
M: honto? But she got it from me. It’s similar to mine.
A: I know. I’ve known that the first time I saw her. That’s why I love it.
Happy. Thankful.
Tonight and tomorrow night, Hubs is away for a stay-in workshop organised by the company, him being one of the lecturers. I’m happy for Hubs for this opportunity but I sorely miss him; this being the first night we’ve been away from each other ever since our church wedding two years ago let alone the first since Yui was born. Yui seemed to be out of sorts herself as well this evening. Not crying thankfully but more clingy than usual. Nighttime is actually her bonding time with Dad as I go about doing household chores. Funny how she finally settled for the night after hearing her dad on the phone when Hubs called to say goodnight. I am more tired as well since I have to take care of the baby AND do household chores; this after coming home carting a baby in my arms, a bulky baby bag on one shoulder and dragging a stroller/baby car on one hand (Mayumi carried the shopped goods thankfully). But still I’m real thankful because Yui at least wasn’t cranky this evening. In fact she was smiling a lot. So even when I was already very tired, I found myself still having the energy to do some household chores at 1:30am. Thanks to Yui’s help. The miracles of being a mom – you thought you’re tired already yet you still find yourself going and going and going. But really, aside from the lending arm that Hubs gives when he’s around, it definitely is lonely without Atsushi around. Two nights seem to be very long.
Yui is soon to start her solids already and I planned for today and tomorrow to buy the stuff necessary for the first few weeks at least. Been researching on giving baby solids for quite some time now and it’s finally time to actually buy the stuff for us to get started.
For today’s destination, we had to ride the JR train. Unfortunately however, the station we went to doesn’t have an elevator. We had Yui on a baby car and it’s really quite a feat to climb a long flight of stairs with a baby and a big bag albeit Mayumi will carry the folded stroller. The train master however kindly offered to carry Yui’s baby car and even offered that I put my big bag on the stroller for him to carry which of course I had to graciously refuse. When we got up to the platform, he didn’t leave us immediately the moment he set down the stroller. He waited till I was able to safely tuck Yui in in the stroller. Such a kind act. Thankful. Touched. Impressed.
The baby goods shopping was successful. Was really happy with these girly cover-all bibs; hello kitty and suzzy’s zoo being washable cloth type and the owl and flower design being easy to wipe plastic type. We’re ready for solids yey!
My 71 year old sensei was quite surprised when we told her that in the Philippines, and the rest of the world for that matter, it is the men who make the effort on Valentine’s Day. Said she wants to experience that kind of Valentine’s. My sis in law was quite surprised too and asked if the reason for the reverse is religion – to which I said no. Because yes, in Japan, it’s the women who make the effort during V-day; thinking of creative ways to show their affection to the men of their lives. Chocolate displays on the malls are quite a treat to the eyes as well!
Hubs and I have been teasing each other on who will give to whom during vday this year and he told me teasingly that “when in Rome, do as the Romans do”. I actually planned to go out on Feb 14, to buy Hubs a gift plant (he has a green thumb) and chocolates just like the previous years. But Yui had colds for a couple of days (dear Ward office, please install humidifier and air purifier on the children’s/babies’ floor) and I myself had caught her colds today so no outing for us for the last couple of days. I had to say sorry to Hubs.
When he came home however, I was pleasantly surprised.
Since I have colds, he bought vitamin C as well.
A. Thank you for the love, the happiness and kindness. Love you.
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I was showing Moirraine the bouquet and was telling her that “this was given by Daddy”. At the mention of daddy, she turned her head and looked at her dad as if confirming. Could it be she already understands?
When I kiss you good night starting from your forehead, you lift your neck up to lift your mouth, as if telling me to hurry and kiss you goodnight in the lips. And when I do so and kissed both your cheeks too, you look at me like you’re very much in love with Mom.
Or it could be that you raise your lips so you could kiss Mom. Any which way my heart soars.
You do that too even in public. Last Sunday, we had a family day and hung out somewhere. When we were in a coffee shop (mainly to feed you) and I took you from Dad after I got back from the toilet, you looked at me with beaming eyes with a smile on your lips, yes, like you were so in love with me.
Thank you Moirraine. Grow up well and don’t break Mom’s and Dad’s hearts. Please?
When you look at me with those big round eyes as if telling me your world revolves around me. Heartmelting.
When you’re about to sleep and you raise your hand up in the air, even with your eyes closed and I’m silent. My heart fills with joy and warmth because it tells me that you trust and you’re confident that Mom is always there when you need her.
When your 30 minute naps turns to a three hour sleep because you’re napping in my arms. It definitely gives me a sore arm yes. But it definitely is worth the while.